What if your relationship isn’t broken—just running on old code?

Most couples aren’t failing because of “communication problems.”

They’re stuck in a cycle: the same trigger, the same wound, the same fight, the same distance.

The good news? That cycle can be reverse-engineered.
When you trace your arguments back to the source code—your attachment wiring, early wounds, and survival strategies—you finally see the pattern clearly.

And once you can see it, you can change it.

Join me for a 5-hour immersive workshop where you and your partner will:

• Map your Cycle-Couple Roadmap step by step

• See how a trigger → wound → protective reaction → emotional loop → disconnection cycle keeps running your fights

• Practice private partner exercises (no group sharing or public speaking required)

• Learn how to rewrite those loops with tools you can use right away

• Get access to the same protocols I use with clients in private sessions

Because the truth is:

You don’t marry your soulmate—you marry your trigger.

Not by mistake, but by design.
The real work of love is learning how to reverse the cycle and grow up, together.

The Couple Forward Compass:

Here's the Couple Forward Roadmap we'll walk together in the workshop — a process that lets you reverse engineer your current relationship challenges into a deeper understanding of their root causes, so you can finally interrupt the loop:

individual trigger → a moment mapped in your current relationship that sparks a big reaction and activates something inside you tied to your core and subjective attributions. often felt first as secondary emotions (anger, frustration, defensiveness, shame), these emotions connect to the “masks” we wear and the stories or beliefs we tell ourselves.
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relationship patterns & loops → the brain-coded loop between you and your partner, driven by automatic and autonomic attachment styles [fight | flight | freeze | fawn], developed individually in early primary relationships. secondary emotions fuel the visible loop, while primary emotions remain unseen beneath it.
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survival strategies + nervous system wiring → protective adaptations written by early unmet needs, stored in the body's default settings. this is where primary emotions (fear, sadness, grief, joy, love) live as part of the brain and body's original “source code.” these raw signals shaped the way you learned to manage or avoid connection.
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core attachment needs + early coding → connection | attunement | trust | autonomy | love & sexuality — foundational needs that shaped your brain's patterns for safety and predictability. unmet needs here created the original blueprint for both your survival strategies and attachment style.

What You’ll Experience

✔️ Professional teaching from Christian J. Charette, LMFT
✔️ Private experiential activities with your partner (no public sharing)
✔️ The Couple Forward Compass to map your patterns
✔️ Protocols for emotionally intelligent conversations that land
✔️ A 90-day intentional living plan to sustain your progress
✔️ Digital tools provided—bring your phone, tablet, or laptop

Details

• Space is limited to 7 couples only

• Lunch included

• HSA accepted (email [email protected] if you need assistance)

• Please note: No refunds. With advance notice, your registration can be credited toward a future workshop or therapy services.